The Relationships we don’t think of when we see the same people every day

My fellow blogger Lori at “regrounding, of chemo, cancer and red, red wine”  wrote a great blog talking about the man who makes her coffee every day at Panera and that she realizes that she sees people every day and doesn’t know their names or wonders about all the people around her that she sees but doesn’t know. When I went to live in Nashville for a few years in between living in Los Angeles, I got used to asking people their names and trying to remember them. I knew my mail carrier, the people cleaning the apartment complex, people at the gym, etc. My postal worker Steve was so kind that when I needed to send my business mail to my home address from my brother’s office because my brother died, he wrote me the kindest note about my brother’s death and wrote me when he was changing his route.

I carried this way of life with me when I permanently moved back to Los Angeles, and I love saying hi to the woman delivering my mail, waving at the UPS man who I also see driving when I walk my dog, other dog owners and their dog’s names, the women who clean and vacuum at my gym, etc. It’s a great feeling smiling at them everyday and asking how their day is going. Sometimes it takes me two times to remember a name, but I do my best.

I think it’s important to take the time trying to get to know the people around you especially as our lives have gotten so complex and we are so used to being dialed in to our work and daily life on the computer. This in no way takes away from the amazing friendships I have made as a result of social media and I cherish the friends I have met online especially when it comes to breast cancer.

I think it is helps me feel connected to my surroundings by acknowledging the people who I run in to most days. There’s an office building I walk by every day when I walk my dog Shelby and I always wave to the security guard at the front desk  as I pass him. One day he was on the street talking and I walked over and learned his name is Juan, so now when I walk by I wave  at him and say “hi Juan”.

Taking a moment to ask the names of people I see often always lifts me up even if I am having a rough day. If you are reading this and it is not your custom or practice, try it. I think you will find the same joy that I do in being surrounded by wonderful people working hard every day to do a service that helps your day or is just someone walking their dog  just like you are.

Celebrating the Extra Ordinary: The Good and the Bad

I took this video of Shelby to continue to show the joy she brings me.  I was going to post it yesterday when I discovered she had ear infections in both ears even though she had just been to the vet a few days before.

The right ear is also deeply infected and requires ear drops that she does not like when I put them in. They are analyzing the problem from sections of the infections.  She is home with me resting now.

They shaved her hair off of her ear while she was sedated, and her vet said that the hair will grow back and cover the missing part of her ear. I also took the photo of her resting on the bed with her bandage on.

I am sad for Shelby and I keep thinking how upset Li would be. At least I am comforted knowing Li would not blame me for what happened to Shelby. My friend was so great about unconditionally excepting who I am. That is what true friendship and having a great family is. I am lucky i have friends and family that I love unconditionally and that unconditionally love me.

Shelby is so pretty when she sleeps. She is quiet and peaceful and she has been such a trooper through all of this. For this I am so grateful. Shelby sleeps with optimism and brings light in to my world.

Thanks again to Marie’s award-winning blog  Journeying Beyond Breast Cancer “Celebrating the Ordinary” challenge was really inspiring and I thoroughly enjoyed so many other blogs out there that participated.